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Don’t Throw Your Pearls to Pigs

As I’m writing this, my first ever blog (I always thought this was something only people with far too much time on their hands do, so it feels weird for me…oh well…), I’m watching my 15-month old daughter, Alexandria, taking her mid-morning nap. Every time I look at her (and she took forever to come; only through yet another wonderful miracle of God), I see how precious she is. My prayer is that she too will understand how precious and loved she is not only to her father and I, but to herself and God.


I now realize that I spent many years of my early life, especially in my college years and early twenties, not really understanding my true worth…throwing my pearls to pigs.


Of course, the religious people will say that this passage in the Bible means not to waste what is holy on people that are unholy. And, that is true…

For me, when I threw my pearls to pigs, I didn’t know how precious I was…how valuable I am as a woman who God has created. I was desperate to love and be loved. I didn’t realize that I’m his masterpiece, his most prized possession. You don’t have to be religious to understand what I’m trying to say.

Here are some examples from my life (and please don’t judge me. I’m just trying to be as real and honest as possible with you):

  1. If someone cursed me and told me off, I would go down to their level and try to do even better with cursing them back…properly, if you know what I mean!
  2. My ex-husband basically told me I was worthless, and I actually believed him!
  3. I wouldn’t dress or take care of myself properly because I didn’t think I was beautiful or deserved to look good, or would go to the other extreme, and dress “skimpy” with barely anything on, just so I could be “sexy”.
Safiya and Family

Safiya with her daughter and son


Today, I have a new perspective, especially since I've become a mother.


I now live in Dubai which is a member country of the United Arab Emirates (UAE). I love Jamaica but am also thrilled to be living here! Historically, pearls and the UAE have a long, beloved history. Pearls were a source of wealth in the Emirates long before the discovery of oil. To the people of the Emirates, pearling offered a major form of employment. The rulers of the Emirates only allowed diving (modern equipment i.e. quick methods were banned) as a way of fishing for the pearls. The divers had to work hard, and they often risked their lives doing so. Pearls were and still are held in very high regard in this part of the world.

What’s my point?

Well, to all the ladies, don’t settle for less than you deserve. Mr. Right should be willing to dive for you, so to speak, to win your love and affection. Train people to treat you as the pearl that you are. Dress like a pearl. Speak like a pearl. Wear pearls! You are sooo…  precious, sooo…..valuable!


And, men, please don’t ever treat the genuine pearl of a woman that you have as disposable, despite her flaws. In fact, it’s her flaws that make her even more beautiful.


Pastry Passions is one of my personal beloved pearls. We just completed our 9th year in business, and I’m so honored to be a part of the team that produces the finest cakes and desserts in the world!

I wish to thank God, my husband, Andre (who always makes me feel loved and valued), my parents, family and friends, my employees (who share in my commitment to excellence), vendors and suppliers for all of your love and support.

I love you all…

Yours sweetly,


1 Comment
  • Eileen Dunkley-Shim
    February 14, 2017

    Beautiful Safia. And I can attest you are a beautiful pearl – inside and out.

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